So we tackled tie's and I went into the meeting knowing NOTHING about ties, which was kinda scary, b/c I have a recurring nightmare of always being out of place and a mass of faces turning to me and in a chorus of a deep rumble, saying "What are you doing here?" . But it wasn't like that at all - there were about 20 folks there and only about half of them had experience w/ ties. So that made me feel pretty good/not so outta place.
Halfway through the program, the lightbulb went on in my head and I believe I now understand ties.