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  • by pudge (1) on 2003.03.18 19:13 (#18054) Homepage Journal
    I am relatively new to parenting, but I've been married for some time. I am unlike you, though; I have always had "anger management" issues. And while those issues don't go away, with me they are not unexpected, and I already know how to deal with them myself, because I've had a lot of practice. :)

    Even at Riley's young age, I already can feel some anger as you've mentioned. And it is only going to get worse. But I basically have learned, as I've gotten older, how to "count to 10," though usually what I literally do is just tell myself to clam up until I've calmed down. I don't always bother to conduct this exercise on IRC. ;-)

    But yes, my biggest problem seems to be yours: fatigue. The more tired I am, the harder it is not only to calm down, but to recognize that I need to, in time.

    I think the two most important things are to recognize the problem and to have the humility to deal with it, which is difficult because anger is often closely tied to pride. But no one ever said life would be easy. :)

    I think another thing that has really helped me is realizing the benefits of calming down. When I calm down, I get to enjoy my family instead of being mad at them, or them being mad at me. You can't beat that sort of reward.
    • I think another thing that has really helped me is realizing the benefits of calming down. When I calm down, I get to enjoy my family instead of being mad at them, or them being mad at me. You can't beat that sort of reward.

      That is so true! I got infinitely more pleasure this morning out of explaining to William how to get his sister to put her crayon into the bag that he was holding, than I did in yelling at him for grabbing the crayon from her, which only resulted in both of them crying.

      We avoided