It just keeps coming up, and it's kind of freaking me out.
Because I just don't see this. Am I blind? Does this only happen to attractive young women? (I was young once, but... well, I was young once.)
I mean, I've certainly seen real sexual harrassment, and been the target of it, and been on the winning side in a lawsuit about it, but it never had anything to do with my technical ability. (Indeed, at my very first job I dealt with a middle manager who couldn't keep his hands off me, but at the same time he never had an issue with my technical ability, even though it *was* my first job out of college (and not with a finished degree, either). I was a better programmer than he was, and he was okay with that.)
I have never, not ever, run into a "you can't be good at X" or "you shouldn't do X" or stunned silence in a game or any such thing.
Maybe because it's because I'm so amazingly awesome that it was pointless to try to deny my awesomeness based merely on my gender, but that seems somehow unlikely. Maybe it's happened to me but I've just been oblivious, but given the egregious examples other people report, that seems unlikely too. Maybe my nerdiness simply transcends gender; that seems most plausible.