We suspected for a long time that something was not 100% ok with our son. He was always rather hyperactive, had problems concentrating on anything, but he also had problems making friends, and had problems living up to the simplest of rules we set.
He was starting to understand that he was having problems he couldn't solve himself. So we finally had him checked at a psychiatric center. After several sessions, yesterday he was diagnosed with ADHD as well as PDD NOS. Now ADHD can be enough of a problem by itself, but because of his PDD NOS, he isn't able to understand why people get annoyed or angry of his ADHD actions...
So now we have a family with physical *and* mental disabilities...I always said that I would have much more problems dealing with mental disabilities than with physical disabilities. But now that Tom has been diagnosed, nothing really has changed. Of course, we now know what his problems exactly are, and we will learn to deal with it better than we did before, but of course, he's still our son, and we don't see him any differently than we did before.
I've always believed that you never get a burden heavier than you can bear (or in Dutch 'Kracht naar kruis'). And so it is. We can handle it, for sure. But sometimes you can also think "Will it ever stop? Will things get easier? Ever?". We'll just see.