Thursday July 25, 2002
so, yesterday I ended up being in a few rather uncomfortable social situations, all of which were essentially my fault and made me feel rather sub-human. each of these collectively made me think about what makes it so difficult to socialize at these tech things sometimes, and I think that it may have to do with some of the group dynamics that are unique to online v in-real-life circumstances. So, here are a few rules I intend to follow better myself from now on...
- always introduce yourself to everyone you don't know when you enter a conversation. Otherwise you may make the people you don't know feel unimportant.
- if you bring someone into a conversation, introduce them around to everyone so they don't feel left out. this isn't just about spouses/SOs, but includes fellow geeks who may not know the same people you do.
- don't be so self absorbed you don't really listen to (or care about) what people are saying. I actually watched someone leave mid-sentence when another person was talking to them, and I misunderstood someone entirely yesterday because I was thinking about myself instead of them when they were talking.
- If you screw up, apologise. Yesterday I didn't even acknowledge someone I knew when we were in the same conversation. what an ass. so, I appologized the next time we spoke.